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Raise the Rent and Kick Them Out

It’s so easy to let other people influence our feelings; to let them rent space in our heads. Believe me, I have a tough time with this one.

We all want to be liked, to be loved, and to have others approve of us. And when that doesn’t happen, it’s terribly disappointing. So much so, that it can influence our moods, and how we view our days.

And why do we do that?

Is there any benefit to replaying these negative events?

Does it make us feel any better to feel miserable? To dwell on something that was said that was hurtful, depressing, or disturbing?

And will it change things if we rent space in our heads to people who have behaved in negative ways?

The answer, of course, is no.

There will always be things, events, and people, who will stress and worry us. The key is to not let our minds be bothered by these external forces.

Sometimes, one of our biggest tenants is guilt. There’s really no percentage in letting guilt rent space in your head. It’s a pretty useless occupant who lives in the past, and is incapable of rehabilitation.

I wish I could have back all the days where I was miserable because of something that someone else did, or said. I wish I could have back the sleepless nights, where I worried about the outcome of my relationship with someone. The funny thing about losing sleep is that it did nothing to solve the problem, and also the person that caused it usually slept like a baby while I did not.

Not fun.

Not healthy.

Not productive.

So the next time you’re tossing and turning mentally (and perhaps even physically), ask yourself, is it worth it? Will it make me feel better? Will it change the outcome?

You’re in charge of you.

You’re in charge of your head, your emotions, and your future.

Remember, raise the rent and kick them out!

Do not let the behavior of
others destroy your
inner peace…
Dalai Lama

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